Picking berries is my meditation

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54 points | by mooreds 4 days ago

16 comments

  • mattwdelong 1 hour ago
    About a year and a half ago, I cleared and rough graded my land for our house build. I rented a kx40-4 for about two weeks and put about 140 hours on it. That was pure meditation. The hydraulics became an extension of my body, with the immediate gratification of instantaneous change, I was able to shape the land as I see fit. My wife asked me what I was thinking about and my response was “dirt dirt dirt..rock..dirt” and that was wonderful. I have not had that feeling since I was completely disconnected for a week on an island in Belize. Very calming until the tap root of a big oak tree wrapped around the bedrock 6’ underground. Then you’re reminded that every task has its challenges. I’m now on the look out for a good deal on an excavator.

    Otherwise, I enjoy flower farming and grow about 1/2 acre of flowers and sell wholesale. Close second. Sometimes it is stressful in the midst of July/August weeds but then once you come out the other side, it’s all worth it.

    • chung8123 43 minutes ago
      I have always dreamed about operating an excavator and learning to do so well. I am not sure if it was a midlife crisis or what but I ended up buying a Chinese 2 ton excavator. I live in the suburbs but when I just want to clear my head I go in the backyard and play around with it. My skills have improved a little but nothing like putting 140 hours on a project good. The one I got was about the same as a U17 but less than half the price.
      • criddell 37 minutes ago
        There are places in (or around) Las Vegas where you can operate heavy equipment in a playground setting. You can dig holes or smash cars or just push dirt around. I'm thinking about spending an afternoon there next time I go.
    • steveBK123 50 minutes ago
      > completely disconnected for a week on an island in Belize

      I used to enjoy 18 hour flights to Asia pre-WiFi for true disconnection, plus time zone difference to US East Coast made the time spent on the ground there feel at least half disconnected

    • agumonkey 38 minutes ago
      I believe ability to shape our immediate surrounding is deeply placed in our brains.
  • gcanyon 1 hour ago
    Seattle has wild (foreign, invasive) blackberries all over the place, and in Summer you can easily drive around a bit, spot them, and then spend twenty minutes picking and eating them. As someone from southern California, it's a marvelous thing for food to just be out there in the wild for the taking.
    • VladVladikoff 1 hour ago
      I used to live in the PNW and picking blackberries, mushrooms, cherry plums & oysters kept me quite busy for most of the year. Where I live now the mushrooms and wild berries are nowhere near as abundant, and I feel quite depressed, I’m also spending a lot less time walking (hiking) than I did before. I should probably move back to the PNW for my health.
    • artisinal 1 hour ago
      > for food to just be out there in the wild for the taking

      Wait until you hear about hunting!

      • Alien1Being 1 hour ago
        Yuck ....

        Way to ruin something good .

        • margalabargala 12 minutes ago
          Don't be an ass.

          Not everyone shares your opinion that what needs to be done for you to eat meat, is fine only so long as you can pay someone else to do it for you.

        • Noaidi 14 minutes ago
          You seem pretty disconnected from nature.
  • steveBK123 2 hours ago
    I get it, same reason I enjoy gardening alone in general.

    Most of us spend our work time balancing 100 different things, putting out fires, bouncing between meetings, answering adhoc pings via calls/zooms/slacks, and struggling to do the deep work we are allegedly paid for in between.

    There's a therapeutic aspect to certain kinds of physical hobby/chore work or full focussed hobbyist time that counterbalances this.

    Otherwise at the end of a day of being burned out, we ruminate & doom scroll which only makes things worse.

    • ingvay7 2 minutes ago
      Have much more respect for "yard work" after realizing how therapeutic it is.Hours in the sun doing heavy work after sitting at a desk all week is incredibly relaxing and something i look forward to.
    • Tade0 1 hour ago
      I'm currently on a week-long vacation and it's been so long since I had some proper time off that I forgot how slowly time flows when you're not under pressure.
    • unimplmntd_trap 2 hours ago
      It’s amazing what 5 minutes spent picking weeds out of my garden does for my mental health.
      • Noaidi 13 minutes ago
        You know what, that’s pretty depressing.
    • stantaylor 2 hours ago
      I do long distance solo road cycling. The riding takes just enough of my cognitive capacity that the rest of my mind wanders lightly, usually not thinking about anything of substance. It feels like meditation to me.
      • criddell 28 minutes ago
        I ride my bike to work sometimes and there are days when I find myself rolling into the parking structure and having just about no memory of the ride because I've been daydreaming so hard. And it's always something dumb like imagining what I would do if I encountered an ET or how I could do a perfect bank robbery or what would it be like to sail a small boat across the ocean.

        So it's not really meditative. I don't know what to call it.

      • newsclues 2 hours ago
        Yes, if you’re on a car free path, even better!
        • mantas 2 minutes ago
          Eh. Not the op, but calm backroads are perfect for such rides. Good enough surface so no need to scan it for the better line as on gravel roads or offroad. Little traffic. And cars are much more predictable than the chaos of bike paths.
        • DC-3 10 minutes ago
          For a confident road cyclist it is usually a better experience to be on an actual road than a cycle path even though you have to manage vehicular traffic.
  • randusername 1 hour ago
    I think it is underappreciated how you can make almost anything meditative, even things you previously did not like as mentioned in this article.

    For me it's loading and unloading the dishwasher. I hated it, still do, but if I'm careful to approach it with a very delicate kind of focus I can lose myself in the deep mysteries of the task.

  • chanux 1 hour ago
    For me it's sweeping the garden.

    I hated having to do this a s a child. When I returned home after being away for quite a while, I picked up just to reduce mom's burden.

    Then I found myself actually wanting to do it, just for the mental space it gives. The sense of cleanliness you get adds to the quality of the experience.

    • the_sleaze_ 52 minutes ago
      I find the more and the better I can optimize a routine the more gratification it gives me. Mowing the ideal path through the yard, sweeping the kitchen east to west against the far wall so no crumbs escape under the cabinet and no strokes are duplicated.

      Same feeling as well a well optimized hot path.

  • maguay 1 hour ago
    Washing dishes, strangely, hits that for me. One of the reasons I've never found dishwashers to be worth it.
  • suslik 1 hour ago
    Very nice post. I wish life didn't ruin this for me. As a child, I was forced to pick berries and mushrooms alone when all my friends were playing football - and it made me hate the process with all my heart. But that was so long ago - maybe I should give it one more chance...
    • wtk 1 hour ago
      If in the process you realize it still triggers you, maybe lessons from dr. Gabor Maté are useful. He teaches that emotional triggers are valuable teachers because they highlight unresolved past trauma.
      • catigula 30 minutes ago
        Sometimes when I push my finger on an old scar, it hurts. I don't expect it to get much better.
    • denis-stable 1 hour ago
      I also hated picking berries as a child because it was so boring. Nowadays, with so much stress in my life I wouldn't mind spending a day picking berries as it seems pretty relaxing.
  • ascorbic 1 hour ago
    I love picking blackberries, sloes, elderberries, elderflowers, crab apples etc from the hedgerows around me in the south of England. I also love then using them to make preserves etc. Very relaxing and rewarding.
  • Havoc 2 hours ago
    For me its walking.

    Life seems a bit better after a long walk preferably somewhere nice

    • wtk 1 hour ago
      Walking in cities is often doable on 'autopilot' which annoyingly makes room for my overthinking. Walking in the hills is what probably works better for me as the attention needs to be on the pebbles, stones, holes, path forks.
  • Guestmodinfo 40 minutes ago
    Polishing my shoes is mine
  • ginko 1 hour ago
    Hm, picking redcurrants usually isn't so much work because you collect entire strigs of berries. It's picking the berries off the strigs later that's more annoying but you can do it while watching tv or something.
  • abstractspoon 4 days ago
    Shelling peas has a similar quality
  • Noaidi 15 minutes ago
    I’m sorry, I can’t stand that these types of posts keep making it to the front page of hacker news.

    It’s been said over and over but they never reveal the deepest truth. We should all be picking berries all the time but we can’t because capitalism steals our time and wealth and makes us suffer.

    I mean, can you deny that’s what he’s saying here? “I find it more pleasurable picking berries than writing code or working in a coffee shop or yada yada yada?”

  • LemonLama 4 days ago
    LOve it
  • Hilliard_Ohiooo 32 minutes ago
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